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Award-winning writer and lecturer Barbara Sofer grew up
in a small town in Connecticut, and moved to Israel in 1971. She is a
graduate of the University of Pennsylvania and the Hebrew University in
Jerusalem. Her articles -taking on a wide range of subjects from ethnic
cooking to terrorism--have appeared in The New
York Times, The Boston Globe, Parents, Readers' Digest, Woman's Day,
Hadassah Magazine and Inside Magazine
among many others. She writes a bi-weekly column for the Friday Jerusalem
Barbara has written five books and contributed to
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By Barbara Sofer
In the United States, couples like a June wedding. Not just because of the weather. The month is named for the pagan Roman goddess Juno, the mythological protector of women, interestingly hinting at the vulnerability of women who go from single to married.
In Israel, where 70% of weddings take place in the rainless summer, we're currently in the midst of high season for weddings, a favorite date being Tu Be'av (beginning August 15 eve this year), when, back in the time of the Mishna (3rd century), young women danced in white dresses to catch the eye of a suitor they knew nothing about. Despite the fixed format, every Israeli wedding is different. Couples find nuances to express their individuality. I'm easily swept up in the drama and joy. I love them all.
But the elation I feel at weddings is partly due to what, back in literature studies, we'd call "suspension of disbelief." This is a term coined by 19th-century poet and philosopher Samuel Taylor Coleridge about our ability to suspend judgment about the probability of the narrative. Coleridge was a contemporary of the authors of romantic novels, like our beloved Jane Austen, whose domestic narratives are resolved in felicitous and happy-ever-after marriages.
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