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The Human Spirit: A Musical Odyssey May 30, 2014Meet Lea Dror, haredi soloist; her website calls her a
"haredi singer." Sitting in the back of a religious elementary school
classroom in Rehovot, I wasn't expecting much. I'd wanted to
encourage a bashful granddaughter to join the girls' choir, part of the
after-school program for third graders. Then I heard their
teacher sing. Like those reality shows where a mellifluous voice stuns the
audience and has them standing up and applauding, I was startled by the lilting
soprano surely meant for a concert hall. Indeed. Meet Lea
Dror, haredi soloist; her website calls her a "haredi singer." She's been performing since she was in kindergarten. But in the last
decade she has been performing concerts for women only, singing and telling the
story of her childhood, of her aliya, and how she – like the biblical Ruth,
whose story we read on Shavuot – decided to become a full-fledged member of the
Jewish people. Lea was born in a
farming village in Kazakhstan. Her father, a
photographer, was the oldest of 13 children in a Jewish family. "They weren't
religious, but their single imperative to their children was to marry a Jew,"
says Dror of her grandparents. Her father ignored
it. Lea's mother, a music teacher, wasn't Jewish. Nor were the villagers. Lea's family lived
among country folk, storing preserved vegetables and jams in a potato cellar
because they weren't available in the long winters. By age five, pretty
blond Lea – then called Vlada – was singing in school, at parties and on public
occasions. But her parents were
dissatisfied with their surroundings. "They were intellectuals and felt isolated in such a small
town," she says. "They knew something was missing in their lives." A chance encounter with a non-Jewish stranger who was
handing out books about the afterlife began the family's spiritual odyssey. Her
mother read the books, and began sharing spiritual thoughts together with the
bedtime stories she read to Lea and her brother. "My mother was searching. First
she tried Christianity. When she was sick, she consulted a Krishna spiritual
healer, and he predicted that one day she would become a Jew like her husband. She waved his words
away. By then she was into mediation; she would get us up at 6 a.m. and go to
the snow-covered forest to meditate." They decided to leave Kazakhstan. One option was Germany;
another was Israel. They were impressed by the photos of sunshine and tomatoes
in winter in Israel, where members of her father's family had moved. They
settled in Rehovot when Lea was 11. A fellow immigrant
child advised her it was best not to mention that she wasn't Jewish to her
classmates – so she didn't. Always a good student, Lea learned Hebrew quickly.
She was among the few girls in the science track at the local ORT school,
starting a popular band in which she was lead singer. "I realized people were different here when we had our
first class trip," Dror says. "We were late leaving because we were waiting for
a few kids. That never would
have happened in Kazakhstan; the bus would have left. I understood that we care
about each other in a different way." The school wasn't religious, but she learned about the
cycle of Jewish holidays. At home, the family took on certain Jewish practices.
"We realized that people didn't eat milk and meat together, that they didn't eat
pork. I heard about Yom Kippur. I wasn't fully 12 and I wasn't Jewish, but I
fasted. A Yemenite girl in the neighborhood invited me to classes with her
rabbi's wife. We ate cakes and got prizes for learning psalms. "There's a hassidic idea that each family, like Noah, has
its own ark to protect it. Without realizing it, our family was beginning to lay
down the planks of our ark." Then, one day when Lea was 15, her father shocked the
family by announcing he wanted to become religious – and not just religious, but
a hassid. "He wanted the whole package: Shabbat, kashrut, black hat, Chabad. He
said he wouldn't force anyone to go along with him, but he didn't want us to
stand in his way. We assumed this was just another phase that would pass." It didn't. For Lea's mom, this was a crossroad. Despite all
their past changes, they had maintained a happy, harmonious household. She
remembered the prediction of the shaman in Kazakhstan. Says Lea, "We always
believed in God, an afterlife, the existence of souls. We were even modest in
our dress out of a sense of dignity." At the recommendation of a relative, she, her mother and
brother began taking Judaism classes in Russian. "We found them fascinating. A lot of our old
questions were addressed. Whenever we heard of
a mitzva we could do, we embraced it with enthusiasm." The classes, they only realized later, were connected to a
conversion program. "We were studying together, which made it easier," says Lea. After 10 months,
they were examined by rabbinical judges. "In 10 months, you get the basics,"
says Lea. "You understand that it will take your whole life to learn Judaism." Her toughest exam question? "I was asked to explain the
Paschal Lamb sacrifice of Passover," she remembers. "I didn't know the answer,
so instead I started reciting the Grace after Meals. ‘See,' I told the rabbi, ‘I
know how to practice even though I don't know all the theory.'" The examiner
gave them a final stern warning. "Today, you are only obligated for the Seven Noahide
Commandments. If you convert, you'll have reward and punishment for keeping the
full 613 mitzvot. Why would you want to take that on?" Lea told him that she
couldn't imagine living any other way. The grilling over,
the rabbinical judge smiled. "Welcome to the Jewish people," he said. And so they covered
their eyes and recited the Shema, the pledge of allegiance to the People of
Israel. The last part of
conversion is immersion in a ritual bath. But only certain mikvaot are suitable
for conversions, and there was a waiting list. What do you do
between the conversion and the immersion? Are you Jewish or not? Do you keep all
the mitzvot or make sure you break one as you do on the path to conversion? Do
you thank God for not making you a non-Jew? Is your food kosher? Six weeks after
being declared Jewish, Lea's turn came at the ritual bath. There are three
immersions – the first and third in the presence of a female mikve attendant,
the middle one robed in the presence of three rabbis. "The mikve is where,
according to tradition, that sincere converts get their Jewish soul," she says. She was 16 and a
half. "No," she corrects, "I was like a newborn." One huge personal challenge remained: her singing. "It had
never occurred to me that anything could be wrong with a woman singing in
public. My band was popular; I was always the star at school assemblies." So, for two years, she continued singing in public. At the 12th-grade
schoolwide memorial ceremony for Yitzhak Rabin, she performed a solo: Ofra
Haza's mournful "Along the Seaside." "Tell me how to stop the tears, tell me
where there's another world to live in… along the length of the sea, there are
no waves; there is a world broken into fragments on the pier." Then she announced to the astounded principal that she
wouldn't be singing any longer. "I went home and cried and cried and cried. ‘Vlada,' I said, using my old name. ‘What have you done to
yourself?'" But she stuck with her religious decisions. And instead of studying
biology at a university, she went to college in Kfar Chabad. One day, she saw a
room with a piano and sound equipment. She couldn't resist. She closed the door
behind her, sat down and started to sing. Suddenly, the door
opened and the housemother walked in. Without saying anything, she sat down at
the piano and began to play alongside Lea. When they finished, the housemother
asked, "And now, what are you going to do with this God-given talent?" So today,
Lea Dror gives concerts in Israel and abroad, for women only. She teaches
privately and encourages women to sing, and she organizes the choir for the
religious little girls – some bashful – in the school down the street from the
home where she lives with her husband, the Moscow-born Tomer, and their four
children. She's fussy about
them singing on-key. Sometimes the little
girls even get to come to Lea's apartment, put on big headphones and record in
her studio with playback. Beautiful music.
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